This weeks Wordfull Wednesday topic is Love for Self......
For me, loving ourselves is really about learning to appreciate ourselves, and recognizing who we really are. One thing I tell myself frequently is, "I'll be grateful to myself later for doing this now." When I look at the laundry pile or the dirty dishes in and around the sink, I say, "If I just do it now, I'll be grateful tomorrow." And I am. I'm grateful when I don't procrastinate, even when I might rather completely avoid whatever task lies before me.
I did a post a little while ago called Love Yourself. This is what I said that day:
Someone once said, "Those who deserve love the least, need it the most."
That little thought came into my head this morning as I was introspecting. If we look to the example Jesus Christ set for us we can see how he applied this principle. He loved without boundaries. He showed us how to love each other with open hearts, with forgiveness, with compassion, and with mercy. It is easy to see how we can apply the statement outwardly of ourselves. But we could also apply the statement inwardly. At times I sometimes feel unworthy of love, but if I let myself, I can see that those are the times that I need love the most. In my guilt laden moments I tend to push love away. If we keep working at it, I think we can love not only others, but also ourselves the way Christ intended, with more open hearts, more forgiveness, more compassion, and more mercy.
I also love this quote that I shared before here.
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us."
I have found myself pondering that question often of late, "Who am I not to be?" I struggle with "shining." In part, that is one reason I started blogging, because I could share in a sort of safe way, and I wouldn't have to feel like I was in a spot light. I don't like to pretend that I'm good at anything. There are many things I like to do and enjoy, but I wouldn't presume to be great at anything. When I was in my teens, I really wanted to be great at something. There was no time or money for most of my desires, but I felt driven to succeed and accomplish. I realized then one day, after a lesson on talents - that left me feeling discouraged, that even though I wasn't super talented or great at any one thing there were many things that I could do well and that perhaps that was a talent in itself. I felt comforted in that thought. Part of loving ourselves is learning to accept ourselves and not comparing ourselves with others. I believe that we should only compare ourselves with ourselves in our progress, and try to find ways to rejoice in and accept one another's differences. I am a different mother than my sisters, and sister-in-law's and other women in the world, but that doesn't mean I'm a bad mother or they are bad mothers, because we mother in our own ways, and are women in our own ways. God knows us, and put us where we are with purpose. Let us be our best selves.